09 May 2007

Anguish

The FB has taken to screaming hysterically when his father leaves in the morning, holding on to the gate at the top of the stairs and screaming "daddy come back" at the top of his lungs while sobbing desperately. He repeats it at nursery with yours truly, hanging on to me and crying to go home. But his father has to go to work, and I have to leave him at nursery - for his sake - it's not much fun at home with a mummy who can't do anything, so everyday I have to walk out and leave behind a desperate little boy and it does horrible things to my heart strings. I know it only lasts a few minutes and then he is back to his usual self but it is hard not to turn round, go back in and take him home. At least he has people around him to give him cuddles and he knows that I'll always come back for him.

9 comments:

meggie said...

It seems so strange the way they seem to suddenly revert to old ways. One of my sons used to get almost hysterical over his father going off to work. It eventually 'wore off'. But of course, left me feeling some kind of two-headed monster... how come I wasnt good enough?

Liz said...

My sympathy. B has been in a phase for a while now where he has to be peeled off me. I keep racking my brain to remember the horrid trauma that set off this acute anxiety! Hopefully for you it is a quickly passing phase because the heart string tugging is very painful.

Stomper Girl said...

Maybe he is unsettled because he senses imminent change in the air? Yikes. That must be hard for everyone.

Mrs Thistletwat said...

The poor love. I agree with Stomper Girl, he knows a little brother's going to be arriving any day now and it must be unsettling for him knowing there are going to be changes. Even Mr T's 11 year old has been more clingy to him than usual on the past couple of visits. I'm sure soon he'll be wrapped up in the novelty of the new baby.

angelfeet said...

My little Rosie, who was 3 going on 4 when I was heavily pregnant with Jenny, started to be very clingy but instead of screaming, she would winge. Now, at 8 years old, she would be able to articulate her anxiety of impending changes, but when they're littler, it's more difficult.

velcro said...

Stomper I think you're right; it's a mixture between the imminent arrival of his little brother and the fact that we are moving house making him feel very insecure and unsettled. He was a lot better today

nutmeg said...

I hear ya Velcro! The darling has reverted to falling down and crying uncontrollably when I leave her at dayare at the moment and it's "killing" me. I ring every time, after I've left, to be told she's fine but she's right in the middle of a highly attached phase. I hope it's the middle, anyway ;-)

caramaena said...

It's hard when they do that. Mine used to carry on when you dropped him off at childcare, for the longest time. Thankfully it worked out that my partner would drop him off and I'd pick him up - sooo much easier (yeah I'm a pushover).

Isabelle said...

Oh dear, sympathy coming your way! It's about all you need just now, I bet. You'll never forget this stage - but he will. You can remind him when he's 18 and his girlfriend's around, though...